To the Fellas.........

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Permalink Reply by Coop on December 16, 2009 at 1:33pm

I was raised by some of the most beautiful, strong, determined, and humble women this world possesses that happens to be "big women". I'm talking about women that wud kick a niggas ass then go cook'em dinner! LOL!!! A woman that could rock some heels with the best of them. A woman that didn't give a damn what society says, and did her own thing, with grace and dignity. I love anybody that has the balls to throw the "middle finger" to popular thought and be themselves. Whoever that is. So big woman, the confident ones that is, you do that everyday. Even with the simpliest task. And that's why we love you for it...

Our culture suffers from a bias. People "Men" love to be around or seen possessing things that make them look succesful, fly, or full of "swagger". It's important I say, "percieved" because many times people make big judgement calls about what is "percieved" rather than fact. With this in mind it's so much easier to, "fake it til you make it". And the type of woman on your arm is again "perceived" to be an extension of your success level, like your car(which is why a cat would have a $1000/mth note in a depreciating asset but live in an apt), job(which is why niggas past out fake ass business cards in the club), and confidence (which is why niggas lie). It's very simple....the best way to be accepted is to "appear" that way. (Which is why we live like Kings, but invest and save like bums). So you walk the walk, and talk the talk of what, or who's, value system you live by. (Society's or your own) Unfortunately, to have a big woman on your arms don't speak the "percieved" language of success or popularity.

So Lil Buddy sounds like he's struggling with who he is and how he wants to be perceived. Which makes logical sense of his contradiction. No different than when women say they want a good man, but make the good ones their "friends" while chasing and tolerating the dummies. LOL!!! He'll just needs to find a "big woman" with a "skinny woman's" complex. And she'll rock his world...LMAO!!!

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Permalink Reply by Big V di Iron Lion on December 17, 2009 at 5:59pm

I can't speak for nobody else...but I'll break a slim chick in half. I'm 6'4 290...so I needs a woman that can handle me. Plus I love all the curves and everything in between!

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Permalink Reply by Mr. K-Rob on February 15, 2010 at 4:21pm

I love all women. but there are some cases where if a chick is too small or too big where i may be hesitant at first. I love a good healthy body on a woman, i love curves, breasts and a nice ass and even a little bit of a tummy at times, but too much of a good thing can be harmful. basically athletic built women are my types. but curvy, thick women are something that turns me on almost instantly

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